One of my earliest and fondest childhood memories is getting up early and finding my Mom alone in the kitchen having her morning coffee. A rare event for two reasons:
1. As a kid, I loved sleep more than I do now, if that is even possible. Thus, “early” was not something I saw all too often.
2. Being the youngest of seven children, Mom was never “alone.”
But every once in a while, I would crawl out of bed at the crack of nine, sneak downstairs in my floral nightgown and find my Mom sitting in the kitchen with a cup of coffee, quietly looking out the back door. As a little girl, I remember feeling like I just struck gold: having Mom all to myself for a little while. And certain my Mom wanted nothing more than to hang out with me first thing in the morning, I would quietly lay my head on her lap and feel her hand gently rub my back. And we’d look out the back door together in silence.
Then, treat of all treats…Mom would get out the Sanka Decaffeinated Instant Coffee, the Carnation Non-Dairy Creamer and a generous dose sugar and make me my very own cup of coffee to drink. The humble beginnings of Fitness Friday Girl. I know it wasn’t the typical childhood beverage. But my Mom wasn’t a typical Mom. And somehow through her blurry eyes and busy days, she discerned the value of a few stolen moments with her baby girl. It was “our thing.”
Coffee with Mom.
A few days ago I got up early, but not quite early enough. Just as I started to brew my morning coffee, I heard the pitter patter of little feet.
“Grrrrr….Lord, you know I’m trying to make sure I spend time alone with you each day BEFORE anyone talks to me. You know I NEED my time alone, God. And though they don’t know it, my children need me to spend time alone with you, too. I need to do my Beth Moore study, I need to pray about personal stuff, I need to journal, I need… “
As I muttered my frustrations to Jesus, I turned to see my sweet Rebekah standing next to me. I said “good morning,” squeezed her tightly, kissed the top of her head, and explained that I was just about to head out to the deck for my prayer time. (Read: Please go watch TV or read a book or something) With excitement in her eyes, she exclaimed, “Oh goodie! I’ll go get my Bible and my journal and go out there with you!” And off she went.
Grrrrrrrr….
I took a deep breath and resolved myself to the fact that my prayer time was ruined. Oh well, better luck next time.
And then I remembered Coffee with Mom. And felt a nudge from God, not only to invite Rebekah into my precious prayer time, but also to make her a cup of coffee.
So I whipped up a Junior Latte (eight parts milk, one part sugar, one part coffee) and headed out to the deck. Me and my sweet, sweet Rebekah.
What occurred in the next ninety minutes was, what I can only describe as the culmination of ten years of Mommy prayers. All Rebekah’s life, I prayed that she would fall in love with Jesus, crave His word and long to spend time in His presence. And there she was: reading and interpreting scripture, interceding for her friends and family, and expressing her love for her Creator.
It was the beginning of a new era in Rebekah’s walk with God. I sat in amazement as I sensed spiritual maturity and discernment. She expressed her desire to spread the gospel around the world, to help orphans and to extend her hand to the needy. She explained to me how material things are so insignificant to her and how she’d much rather give to the poor…live with the poor. I marveled how her heart beats in perfect cadence with the Father’s.
It was a milestone moment in our relationship as mother/daughter/friends. We talked about the struggles and joys of being female. We made vows of loyalty to one another. We giggled. We sipped coffee.
I looked at this little girl, now growing older and wiser, and realized that she would someday become my very best friend. And I became excited for who she is and who she is becoming.
At the end of our time, we embraced and we prayed for each other. And she asked with more expectancy than I had ever seen in her eyes if we could do this again. Like every day.
In a microsecond, I mentally weighed out my options. I thought of my need for alone time and my desire to work through my Beth Moore study. I thought of my precious daughter, who just a few minutes prior, looked me in the eyes and said, “Mom, I want to be just like you.”
I thought of all the years, in my alone time, I prayed for this very thing—
I thought of my own busy Mom. A Mom who had a thousand things to do and seven little reasons to deserve a few minutes of complete solitude. A Mom, who rather than shooing me away, welcomed me into her precious alone time so she could create a memory and lay a relational foundation. A Mom who would later become my best friend and my hero.
Yes, it only took me a microsecond to weigh all that out. For while I most certainly value my alone time, I have no greater joy than to see my children walk in Truth.
So I held her sweet face in my hands and I said, “Meet you here tomorrow at 8.”
I LOVE LOVE this post..oh and YOU too!! 🙂
I occassionally busted in on my grandmother's quiet time. She made me Sanka as well — except with evaporated milk straight up and lots and lots of sugar; yum!
The lessons of intimacy that God teaches us are very special. As your mom welcomed you; as you became excited to share this with REbekah (although honestly in the flesh, who can blame you for wanting alone time? not me anyway); God reminded me about how He welcomes me, how He gets excited to see me expand spiritually and develop into the woman He created me to be.
This brought those sweet kind of tears to my eyes.
Melanie@Bella~Mella
Blinking away the tears so I can see my keyboard…Too sweet. I can't believe she's so grown up now. I remember going to the Keys with you guys years ago and she cried for "fresh milk". Now, she's drinking "coffee"
So excited to hear that she has such a heart for the Lord. I'm not surprised. She has an awesome example in you. LOVE YOU!
This was so sweet…loved that you shared this precious memory with us…
Oh Sandy, what a special blessing! You listened to the whisper of God and welcomed this interruption. I think it was a divine appointment girl. You are becoming a spiritual mentor to your daughter. How awesome that she wants to become like you. Oh, how amazing that she has such a love for the Lord and loves people and prays for them. Thank you for sharing this special moment with your blogging friends. I loved reading it.
I love this, Sandy. And I'm so glad you shared it. I'm going to remember this when my little one bumps into my alone time too.
Every mom's dream…to see His kingdom taking root in our child's heart…I am so rejoicing with you…
Blessings,
Sita
Let me just say it and get it out of the way…You pray my head. All of the Grrrr's and reasoning and everything. That's me!
You made me cry. His nudge is so sweet with infinite blessing. I pray the same for my munchkins.
I could have wrote the exact same thing about "grrr…I wanted time alone with God" many times over! But what a great blessing it is to bring our children to God, He must be rejoicing when our little ones fall in love with Him!
Love your blog! Good luck with your book-it's going to fly off the shelves!
What a post, Sandy.
So tender and sweet.
As I sit here, I am due to have my own baby girl here in the next month. Ive been doing A LOT of reflecting lately – about having a little girl around. Soon, I'll be braiding hair, playing with dolls, and buying cute dresses. Wow! My prayer is that my daughter becomes a gal filled with faith.
What a special young lady you have there! Enjoy your mornings with her – and The Father 🙂
Hugs,
Kate 🙂
I cried so hard reading this post Sandy! It clearly comes from the beautiful heart of a very special Mom. While reading it I could just picture the smile of God and His tender love for you and your little girl in that precious moment.
PS: I grew up with coffee as a child in South Africa, so I was so surprised that children in America don't drink coffee. That was before I tasted the strong, brewed coffee over here as opposed to our decaf Nescafe Instant coffee that was always latte style:)
I don't know you but came across your blog. This one really touched me. I have 3 children and I too get up early for my alone time. And when this time is interrupted I get so frustrated! Thank you for reminding me of the more important things.
Beautiful message.
Enjoy your times with your precious ones. You and your daughter look adorable together.
I pray all is well. Trying to get back in the swing after a blogging break and then vacation.
Talk soon. Love ya.
P.S. I took your sidebar poll.
This is beautiful. I will pray for this for my boys. I think I have been selfish in my alone time and not very organized in it. I want to share with my boys what I am learning and my walk but I am not making time for it. This spontaneous Coffee time with your daughter is priceless! I had tears in my eyes.
So sweet and what a beautiful, precious moment! Makes me look forward even more to my sweet time learning about God with my girl instead of just teaching her!